Fertility Frustrations: Trying to Conceive

Posted by Anni on Tuesday, April 10th, 2012

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My husband and I want to have a baby. I dream of holding her, teaching her about nature, showing her old movies and sharing my favorite music. I dream about what she’ll look like and what she’ll be when she grows up. I’m getting ahead of myself. We’ve been trying for a few months and so far haven’t had much luck. The statistics show that only 50% of normal, healthy couples will conceive within five months. It is not unusual for it to take up to a year. When you want a baby, a year is an eternity. I’m trying to stay calm. If I let my mind wander I start imagining all the things that could be wrong with me. Since stress is a known cause of infertility, I’m doing my best to relax and be patient.

I’m fairly obsessed with reading about fertility and I frequent several websites on the subject. It’s astonishing how many women out there have problems conceiving. A friend of mine is convinced it has something to do with heavy metals or BPA but she doesn’t have any proof. I think it’s easy to blame environmental toxins for human problems, especially problems with fertility. We look at the animal kingdom and see successful reproduction everywhere, so why do some humans have so much trouble? I think it has something to do with pregnancy’s cost.

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Having a baby is a heady prospect. It requires huge amounts of energy and takes a permanent toll on our bodies. Unlike many other animals, humans have few offspring, so it is critically important that each one be viable. It makes sense that we would only have a successful pregnancy when all the ducks like up in a neat row. Slight genetic abnormalities, irregular menstrual cycles, stress and illness can all stymie a healthy pregnancy. While it is painful and difficult in the short-term, it is certainly preferable for a body to wait until conditions are right. A healthy baby is the reward for biological patience.

An egg, pierced by an in vitro scalpel:

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Even though I know it might be hogwash, I’ve found myself drawn to holistic fertility boosters. I’m taking lots of vitamins, eating soy, and drinking fertility tea. I’m also doing everything my doctor recommends: eating healthy, exercising, getting enough sleep, and taking time to relax. I have no idea if all of this is helping but it helps emotionally to feel like there is something about my fertility that I can control. Feeling helpless stresses me out more than anything! In the end, I know I’ll get pregnant when my body is ready. Until then, I’ll dream about babies and keep my fingers crossed.

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